My best friend in Junior High was amazing. She was always there for me and always supported me. She gave me her opinion when I wanted it and when I didn't. She was always ready to tell me when I needed to apologize and was great at helping me solve my problems. We told each other anything and everything. We were super close. So close that people would get our names mixed up when we didn't even look remotely alike. We even had the ability to read each others minds or so it seemed. Anyway I think you get the picture.
Our friendship was pretty great, but there were a few downsides that I didn't notice until later. One of which was the fact that I became a bit one friended. I didn't branch out to make more friends. I didn't want more friends so I didn't put much effort into other friendships. This made me a bit lonely. I only really had one friend so I pushed others away and felt alone in my beliefs. I didn't allow myself to open up to others that might have been as in love with God as I was.
Once I finally allowed myself to branch out I also realized that my best friend had been a bit picky and judgemental. If I did something that she didn't like, she would point it out and tell me that I shouldn't do it and how dumb it was. If I said something she wouldn't say, she would make fun of me. If I wore something she wouldn't have worn, she would laugh and make me feel self conscious.
We were very competitive and she bragged a lot. This made me think I wouldn't ever be as good as her. It made me think that trying to beat her or do better than her was impossible. So sometimes I just wouldn't try. I mean what's the point if your never going to be better than her...or at least that's what I thought.
Besides that she was an amazing friend. Don't count this fantastic person out. She just didn't understand what she was doing or how it could effect someone. And she was really extraordinary and was truly an awesome friend. I couldn't have had a better friend at that time. All I have to say to you though is this:
Just because you have a best friend or a really really close friend doesn't mean you don't need any more. You can never have too many friends. And you never know how much you could be missing if you don't branch out. Plus you might just meet a person who could really help you. And if one of your friends is doing things that affects how you look at yourself in a negative way, tell them! Don't keep it a secret. That won't help.
And seriously, look at the things you do and ask yourself how they might affect someone. Are you putting them down by your actions? Are you building them up or tearing them down with your words? You may not mean too, but you could be doing little things that will affect someone greatly.
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I am Bridges or at least on here I am. Basically, I am a teen. I have many hopes and dreams, many fears and insecurities that I let hold me back. There is so much that goes on in my life. Sometimes it is a struggle, and that what this site is about.
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